Crossdressing Phonesex Essays By Mistress Violet

Essay # 1

Over the years I have spoken in depth with many cross-dressers about their personal journey.  It has been both fascinating and enlightening.  Many of them confided that though they loved how they felt in women’s clothing, they could not help feeling guilty because they knew it was not socially acceptable.  They would draw their curtains so the neighbors wouldn’t see them peel off their boring man clothes and put on beautiful knee-high leather boots and a figure hugging pencil skirt in the privacy of their home.  They had nobody to speak with about their needs as they were really afraid of the reaction they might get…especially from their family.

More than one man told me similar stories of being at home, wearing their favorite women’s outfit.  Feeling confident and safe in their home when the door bell rang.  They remember having panic attacks, stripping off the clothing, hiding the “evidence” and quickly changing back into man clothes.  By the time they got to the door, the person was gone.  That usually lead to them throwing away every piece of women’s clothing they had.  It was the knowledge that if they had been caught, they would have been mortified. 

When they wear women’s clothing, they feel “invigorated”, “at peace” with themselves and “relaxed”, but the second there was a threat of being found out…their emotions would stir up and their peace replaced by feelings of fear and apprehension.  It was a real struggled to find a way to stop those mixed emotions.

Many men told me that they saw programs on tv about men who felt trapped in a man’s body.  He wanted gender surgery to be turned into a woman.  He was explaining to a gender therapist why he felt he needed to actually be transformed into a woman permanently.  Hearing what he said made these men realize that they had never once thought about actually becoming a woman.  As a matter of fact, it made them realize that they enjoy being a man very much.  They just happen to also enjoy being a cross-dresser.  Most cross-dressers are straight.

For many men, cross-dressing in their home is enough.  Others begin to wonder what it would be like to go out in public and be accepted as a woman.  This means learning how to walk, move and talk like a woman.  It also means learning how to wear makeup and for most men, wearing a wig.  These men desire to find the confidence to pull off being a woman.  This causes them to closely examine their body shape, and face.  Comparing them to a woman’s and thinking about how to improve what they have.

I have found that overcoming a man’s mental attitude towards his body is a major hurdle in passing as a women in public.  After all…biological women come in all shapes and sizes.  I believe if you put your mind to it, and have the right support, you can achieve anything.  It does not require hormones or surgery to pass as a woman.  It can be done with cosmetics, training, learned confidence, persistence and determination.